This ‘Masturbation May’ take a pledge to learn more about your body and how you like to be touched, and create a way to make that exploration special. We can use the framework of ritual to think through every element of the experience we want to create, and to help add meaning to every step of the process. Think about lighting a candle, or burning some incense, or doing something to mark the time and…

All we’re seeing in the news and in our social media feeds is telling us to keep our distance from other people — but how does that work when you live with other people? It means being in very close quarters for an undetermined amount of time.  We all lead busy lives. Between jobs, hobbies, and friends, it’s possible to barely see the people we live with. (I can go a week without seeing my…

Pegging is one of my favorite topics (although I have a lot of favorites 😉 ) It’s something I write about, teach about, and love in my personal life, too. Sometimes my personal and professional life overlap – especially when I’ve got new toys to test out. Sending a picture of toy I want to try is my version of a (consensual) dick pic, and it hasn’t failed me as a pick-up line yet. When…

I’ve interviewed countless people for my classes and articles, and whenever I talk to people into kink, BDSM, or fetish play, there’s a common thread. When I ask people why they do what they do, the answer is almost always to feel some kind of vulnerability. We’ve got lots of different ways of getting there, but that core truth remains the same. So much of the fun, juicy stuff happens when you allow yourself to…

I’m not a Wiccan, but the line from the charge of the goddess, “All acts of love and pleasure are my rituals,” has always resonated with me. I was reminded of that last night, as I sat with a group of femmes passing around a microphone, discussing masturbation. It was my fourth time recording Amory Jane’s podcast, Sex on the Brain, and the second time we were doing it live from a party. Last time was…

Although I never intended to specialize in sex parties, it seems to have happened. It’s simply a kind of play I enjoy in my personal life, which dovetails nicely with my work as a sex educator. Play parties, orgies, threesomes… they’re the stuff of fantasy for a lot of folks. And while there are special considerations when it comes to safety and negotiation, I think they’re also a lot more accessible than you might realize….

I knew I wanted to talk about some of my favorite companies or products for a Valentine’s Day post… the question was, which ones? Well, then I had an experience that answered that question for me. I’m not usually a huge squirter, but I had a date recently that left my comforter absolutely soaked. It wasn’t a wet spot, it was a wet bed. It was late, and I was tired, and I didn’t want…

It’s Masturbation May and masturbation advice and musings are all over my social media feed. It’s making me recall, with fondness, the time I masturbated to orgasm in front of an audience of around 50 people. It was for a class, and this time I was the demo bottom, not the teacher. My friend was teaching an erotic embarrassment and humiliation class for a kink audience, and I volunteered. The problem was, he couldn’t embarrass…

Therapists, coaches, and books that focus on relationships have long said that adding novelty is one of the key ways to keep a relationship hot and happy. Now there’s even more science backing that up. “Sexually successful couples’ [are] more likely to have experimented with sexual variety—from anal stimulation to acting out sexual fantasies to using a sex toy together. And they had sex and orgasms more frequently. “It was encouraging to learn that more…