A: Coaching and Private Instruction are $100 an hour. Coaching packages are also available.
A: Cash, Check, and Credit Card payments are all accepted. Payment is expected at the end of our session or in advance if a series of sessions is being purchased. Advance payment may be required to confirm phone or Skype appointments.
A: That depends on you. If we’re just going over your online dating profile and covering a few tips and pointers, we might be done in 90 minutes. Basic rope bondage can be taught in 2 hours. Much more typical is a series of 4-8 sessions to be completed within 4-6 months.
A: Most of my coaching sessions take place in my office in the Gotham Building, in NE Portland, Oregon. Coaching is also available by phone or Skype anywhere in the world. For some sex coaching sessions or kink lessons I meet clients in their own home. I can also come to you as needed for accessibility.
A: I work with clients of a variety of ages (18+), genders, races, sexualities, and relationship styles. My ideal clients are brave, curious, open-minded, and ready for change and growth.
A: You don’t need to be in a relationship to benefit from coaching. We can work on dating and meeting people, if that’s your goal. We can also work on your own relationship with sex and sexuality, and the sexual relationship you have with yourself. Many people find that building their confidence and solidifying their needs and wants around relationships makes meeting new people easier and less stressful. You are also better able to filter when you know what you want and need.
A: No. I do not perform any hands-on body work. I demonstrate techniques, when necessary, by using illustrations or on sex toys and props. In guided couples sex coaching, I watch, direct, or choreograph as needed. I never take my clothes off or get in bed with clients.
A: Yes. I never share client information with anyone, though you are free to talk about our work with your friends or partners as you choose. And I always appreciate feedback and testimonials that I can share, even anonymously.
A: I have a degree in Sociology from the University of California at Santa Cruz with an emphasis on sex and gender. I am a Certified Intimacy Educator and a Certified Professional Coach. Being certified isn’t just about classroom hours. Certification means a dedication to upholding best practices in the field and a commitment to a code of professional ethics. In addition to professional training, I have years of personal experience with polyamory, open relationships, BDSM, and kink, and I’m active in the the local kink and sex positive communities as a volunteer and event organizer.
I’ve taught for the Portland Academy of Sex Education, the Portland Leather Alliance, Sindicate dungeon, Portland Rope Arts Group, Hitchin’ Bitches (a women’s rope group), Sex Positive Portland, SheBop, Spartacus, Fantasy for Adults, the CSPC in Seattle, CatalystCon West and Midwest, and Adventures in Sexuality Ohio. I’ve also spoken at Portland State University, Pacific University, Lewis and Clark College and Reed College.
A: Coaching and therapy are different disciplines. Therapy tends to look at your past and how you’ve gotten where you are and coaching is very forward looking and action oriented. Depending on what issues you’d like to work on, I may refer you to therapy before you work with me, or for concurrent work. Many therapists don’t delve into sex and sexuality, and coaching is a fantastic way to bridge that gap.
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A: Get in touch via email or phone. I’d be happy to talk to you about any questions or concerns you might have. A free 20 minute consolation is a great way to get started with coaching and to make sure that working with me is the best fit for you.