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“Stella is a uniquely wonderful coach.” -Chaline
“I recently became single after more than 20 years of marriage. Stella’s coaching on modern dating — online dating, safer sex concepts, boundaries, intimate communication, etc. have been vital to navigating this change in my life. Sessions with her are a safe place where I can ask questions without fear and get the answers I need. I highly recommend her services.” – Bill
“I would recommend Stella to anyone interested in deepening their relationship to sex, themselves and their partners.” – Pat B.
“Clearly an expert level sexuality educator both in knowledge and experience as well as ability to clearly communicate complex ideas and stage presence.” – Professor Angela Towne
“Stella takes topics which can feel overwhelming and intimidating and makes them feel accessible, friendly, and fun. She’s highly skilled at meeting people where they’re at and helping them navigate the emotional terrain that surrounds sexual challenges. It’s a delight to learn from her.” – Kate McCombs, Sex & Relationship Educator
“Stella Harris is brilliant. She’s personally helped me with issues around codependency, boundaries, and getting comfortable and feeling safe with asking for what I need in my relationship. I’m currently in the most stable, healthy relationship of my life and it’s because Stella helped me to navigate (rather than avoid) having uncomfortable conversations. Let her help you do the same.” – JDH Rod
Coaching
The heart of my business is personalized, private coaching for individuals and couples. Coaching provides you with an expert, grounded, outside perspective. Together, we find where you’re getting stuck and figure out a way forward.
The coaching process is unique to each client. Sometimes we find small areas of missing information, and sometimes there’s a longer process of learning, exploration, and growth.
Popular coaching topics include:
- Working on relationship issues such as communication
- Trying new things, including open relationships and kink
- Figuring out desires and boundaries
- Exploring dating for the first time or after a long break
- Finding ways to expereince more pleasure
Coaching is an empowering process that helps you build the confidence and skills to meet your goals. Coaching is available by phone or video no matter where you are. Learn more about sex & intimacy coaching or simply book now.
Classes & Workshops
Classes are one of the best ways to dive into a new topic. I teach on a wide range of subjects and I’m always happy to customize a class for your group or venue. I have a growing list of classes available online, that you can move through at your own pace.
Classes include:
- Modern Dating
- Fantasy Exploration
- Introduction to Kink and BDSM
- Communication in the Bedroom
- Love Notes & Dirty Texts
You can also find upcoming live/online events listed here.
Can’t find what you’re looking for? Contact me to discuss creating custom content.
Resources for professionals
Training & Consultation: I offer specialized curriculums for therapists, medical students, and other health professionals. You can hire me to build trainings for your group’s unique needs and interests or schedule a one-on-one consultation. Learn more on my consultation and referral page.
Trainings have included:
- Talking about sex
- Introduction to non-monogamous relationship styles
- Working with kinky clients
Referrals: If you have clients with issues or questions beyond the scope of your practice I welcome your referrals. I work with clients in areas that therapy typically does not cover and have specific training in the fields of sex and sexuality.
Legal consultation & expert witness services: For cases that involve sexual elements, or alternative sexual practices, I provide consultation to help you better understand the issues at play. I can also appear as an expert witness in court to help demystify and destigmatize these issues for the judge and jury. Get in touch.
Speaking at colleges & universities
I have presented classes to colleges and universities across the US and Canada. Presentations can be stand-alone workshops or providing guest lectures to existing classes.
Topics have included:
- Getting Ready for Pleasurable Sex
- Building Ethical Relationships
- Advanced Sexual Practices: Kink, Rough Sex, and BDSM
- Communication, Covid, and Consent
- Distanced and Solo Sexual Activity
- Reducing Risk in Partnered Sex
Contact me to discuss having me speak at your college or class.
Kink or rope bondage lessons
When exploring new kinks, it’s important to move slowly, and make sure you’ve got accurate information. Private video lessons are an ideal way to learn because you can move at your own pace and ask questions.
Rope bondage lessons come with my ebook to help you remember what you’ve learned and practice on your own. Learn more about rope bondage lessons or buy the ebook.
Writing
I’m widely published in print and online including everything from erotic fiction to lifestyle and educational pieces on sex and kink.
Learn more about my books here, or check out some of the articles I’ve written.
As a freelance writer, I create content including blog posts and articles and I offer copywriting services. Please contact me if you’d like to discuss content for your website or other projects.