Intimacy. Exploration. Pleasure.
Hi, I’m Stella Harris. I’m a certified intimacy educator and professional coach. In addition to my direct work with clients and students, I work with professionals such as therapists and educators in the hopes of putting myself out of a job. My vision is of a world where everyone has access to accurate and shame-free information about bodies, relationships, and pleasure from day one. Until we get there, I will continue to use a variety of tools to guide and empower my clients and teach classes on everything from pleasure anatomy, to communication skills, to fantasy exploration. Keep reading to learn about ways we can work together.
How can we work together?
Coaching for individuals & couples
The heart of my business is personalized, private coaching for individuals and couples. Coaching provides you with an expert, grounded, outside perspective. Together, we find where you’re getting stuck and figure out a way forward.
The coaching process is unique to each client. Sometimes we find small areas of missing information, and sometimes there’s a longer process of learning, exploration, and growth.
Popular coaching topics include:
- Working on relationship issues such as communication
- Trying new things, including open relationships and kink
- Figuring out desires and boundaries
- Exploring dating for the first time or after a long break
- Finding ways to experience more pleasure
- Managing relationship transitions — including long-distance and amicable endings
Recorded classes and live events
Classes are one of the best ways to dive into a new topic. I teach a wide range of subjects and I’m always happy to customize a class for your group or venue.
I have a growing list of recorded classes available that you can move through at your own pace. You can also check my schedule of upcoming virtual events. Can’t find what you’re looking for? Contact me to discuss creating custom content.
Resources for professionals
I work with therapists, doctors, medical students, and lawyers to help demystify subjects beyond a professional’s usual scope of practice. Examples of my work include:
- Training medical professionals to talk to their patients about intimate topics
- Helping therapists understand polyamory, BDSM, and other issues around gender and sexuality.
- Receiving client referrals when issues are outside a professional’s scope of practice
- Consulting with lawyers in cases that involve sexual elements or alternative sexual practices, including appearing as an expert witness in court.
Writing, speaking, and more
Looking for even more ways we can work together? Follow the links below to learn more about the services I offer, the books I’ve written, or to get in touch right now to discuss your project.
TESTIMONIALS
“Stella is a uniquely wonderful coach. She has the talent to immediately make you feel comfortable discussing your concerns and insecurities with the most sensitive of topics. Stella also does a fantastic job of focusing the conversation to truly meet my objectives and current needs, as well as providing resources and things to think about outside of the session. I can’t recommend her highly enough.”
Chaline
“Stella Harris is brilliant. She’s personally helped me with issues around codependency, boundaries, and getting comfortable and feeling safe with asking for what I need in my relationship. I’m currently in the most stable, healthy relationship of my life and it’s because Stella helped me to navigate (rather than avoid) having uncomfortable conversations.”
JDH Rod
“I would recommend Stella to anyone interested in deepening their relationship to sex, themselves, and their partners.”
Pat B.
“Stella takes topics which can feel overwhelming and intimidating and makes them feel accessible, friendly, and fun. She’s highly skilled at meeting people where they’re at and helping them navigate the emotional terrain that surrounds sexual challenges. It’s a delight to learn from her.”
Kate Kenfield
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