My new book: Tongue Tied
“An incredible guide full of exercises, tools, and personal examples, Tongue Tied is a must-read for people of every experience level and relationship status.” Being released in September but you can pre-order now.
Yes~No~Maybe List
A Yes/No/Maybe list is a great place to start when you’re trying to figure out new things you’d like to try, or trying to negotiate new kinds of play with a partner.
As Kinky As You Wanna Be
If you’re interested in exploring kink, this book is a great read. My story, The Only Real Girl on the Internet, is included.
Intimacy Without an Erection
I’ve gotten questions about erections enough times that I wrote an article for Kinkly about ways to have intimacy without an erection. Your body doesn’t always do exactly what you want, but there’s still lots it can do.
Step by Step Guide to Fisting
Curious about fisting? I wrote an article for Kinkly all about it.
STI Risk Handout
Curious about the STI risks of various activities? This handout compiles the best information we currently have. This isn’t to alarm you, it’s so you can make an informed decision about what safer sex practices work best with your personal risk tolerance.
So You Want to Visit One of Portland’s Sex Clubs, But Don’t Know How? Start Here.
Here’s Everything You Wanted to Know About Your First Threesome
//www.wweek.com/culture/2017/10/25/heres-everything-you-wanted-to-know-about-your-first-threesome/
“We’re Not Here For White People’s Pleasure.” On Race, Fetish and Objectification.
How Do I Introduce Toys in the Bedroom?
//www.wweek.com/culture/sex/2017/11/14/how-do-i-introduce-toys-in-the-bedroom/
Is It “Normal” For a Man to Want a MMF Threesome?
//www.wweek.com/culture/2017/11/18/is-it-normal-for-a-man-to-want-a-mmf-threesome/
What Lesbians Need To Know About Safe Sex
//www.wweek.com/culture/2017/11/24/what-lesbians-needs-to-know-about-safe-sex/
Wet & Wild: Everything You’ve Wanted to Know About Squirting
//www.wweek.com/culture/2017/12/02/wet-wild-everything-youve-wanted-to-know-about-squirting/
How To Support a Partner Who’s Overcoming Past Sexual Trauma
//www.wweek.com/culture/2017/12/10/how-to-support-a-partner-whos-overcoming-past-sexual-trauma/
Gloves and Dental Dams Are Safer Sex Tools You Need To Take Seriously These Days
//www.wweek.com/culture/2017/12/17/gloves-and-dental-dams-are-safer-sex-tools/
When It Feels Like Something is Missing From Sex
//www.wweek.com/culture/sex/2017/12/29/when-it-feels-like-something-is-missing-from-sex/
Pain During Penetration is a Topic You Absolutely Have To Talk About
Talk To Your Partner About Period Sex, You Might Be Surprised What You Learn
Everything You Know About Foreplay Is Wrong
//sluttygirlproblems.com/guide/everything-you-know-about-foreplay-is-wrong/
How to Combat Jealousy in Your Relationship
//sluttygirlproblems.com/advice/jealousy-stella-harris-advice/
First Time at Anal Sex? Here’s the Ultimate Guide
//www.kinkly.com/first-time-at-anal-sex-heres-the-ultimate-guide/2/17721
An Introduction to the Fascinating World of Predicament Bondage
//www.kinkly.com/an-introduction-to-the-fascinating-world-of-predicament-bondage/2/17695
Anal Play and IBS – Why It Doesn’t Have to Be a No Go
//www.kinkly.com/anal-play-and-ibs-why-it-doesnt-have-to-be-a-no-go/2/17334
Rimming Risks – and How to Play Safer
//www.kinkly.com/rimming-risks-and-how-to-play-safer/2/17333
The Rise of Online Sex and Relationship Support
//www.kinkly.com/the-rise-of-online-sex-and-relationship-support/2/17277
Why Edging and Orgasm Control Make for Great Long-Distance Play
//www.kinkly.com/why-edging-and-orgasm-control-make-for-great-long-distance-play/2/16980
Bondage for All Bodies
//www.kinkly.com/bondage-for-all-bodies/2/14954
Scared to Buy Your First Sex Toy? Here’s What to Do
//www.kinkly.com/scared-to-buy-your-first-sex-toy-heres-what-to-do/2/14794
The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Milking
//www.kinkly.com/the-ultimate-guide-to-prostate-milking/2/14724
The Ultimate Guide to Having Anal Sex
//www.kinkly.com/the-ultimate-guide-to-having-anal-sex/2/14195
Your Step-by-Step Guide to Fisting
//www.kinkly.com/2/14153/sex-tips/your-step-by-step-guide-to-fisting
Can’t Get Hard? 8 Tips for a Steamy, Sexy Good Time Anyway
//www.kinkly.com/2/13549/sex-tips/cant-get-hard-8-tips-for-a-steamy-sexy-good-time-anyway
Why Consent Is More Complicated Than a Cup of Tea
//www.kinkly.com/2/8613/sex-tips/birds-and-bees/why-consent-is-more-complicated-than-a-cup-of-tea
Strap-On (Fore) Play
//www.kinkly.com/2/8092/sex-tips/oral-sex/strap-on-fore-play
Got a Vulva? Here’s How to Love Oral Sex
//www.kinkly.com/ladies-heres-how-to-love-oral-sex/2/4361
The Ins and Outs of Rope Bondage
//www.kinkly.com/2/1355/beyond-missionary/bdsm/the-ins-and-outs-of-rope-bondage
8 BDSM Tips – With a Twist
//www.kinkly.com/2/1232/beyond-missionary/bdsm/8-bdsm-tips-with-a-twist
Power Play: The Differences Between Tops, Bottoms, and Switches
//www.kinkly.com/2/1202/sex-tips/bdsm/power-play-the-differences-between-tops-bottoms-and-switches
The Basics of BDSM Negotiation
//www.kinkly.com/2/1194/sex-tips/bdsm/the-basics-of-bdsm-negotation
How Do You Define ‘Sex’?
//www.kinkly.com/2/1164/sex-tips/birds-and-bees/how-do-you-define-sex
A DEEP DIVE INTO DIRTY TALK—AND HOW TO DO IT WITHOUT FEELING LIKE AN AWKWARD LLAMA
//www.wellandgood.com/good-advice/how-to-talk-dirty/
The Right – and Wrong – Way to Have a Threesome
//www.kinkly.com/2/1127/lets-talk-about-it/sexuality/the-right-and-wrong-way-to-have-a-threesome
Better Sex: 10 Things to Start Doing Right Now
//www.kinkly.com/2/386/sex-tips/birds-and-bees/better-sex-10-things-to-start-doing-right-now
Dating After Divorce: When Is It the Right Time?
//www.cheatsheet.com/entertainment/dating-after-divorce-the-right-time-to-date-after-divorce.html/
If You’re Not Talking About Sex, You’re Not Good At It
//www.fatherly.com/love-money/if-youre-not-talking-about-sex-youre-not-good-at-it/
Everything you need to know before using a strap-on
//www.cosmopolitan.com/uk/love-sex/sex/a25006190/strap-on/
Articles for Kinkly
“Sex is a bit like a secret society; everyone’s doing it, it’s just that no one talks about it. Kinkly’s mission is to start that conversation, answer your questions and help you discover new and exciting things about sex, love and your body. We guarantee it’ll be illuminating, enlightening, fun … and a little kinky.” Find all of my Kinkly articles here.
- The Right and Wrong Way to Have a Threesome
- BDSM Tips with a Twist
- The Ins and Outs of Rope Bondage
- Tips for enjoying oral sex.
Articles for Peaches Magazine
I’m a regular contributor over at Peaches Magazine: straight talk and scintillating stores about sex. Find all of my articles here.
- Negotiation and Consent in Kinky Sex
- Spanks vs. Spanking
- My Experience with Boudoir Photography
Want to read reviews of my work? Visit the reviews page.
One Interpretation – Published by Cleis Press in Best Women’s Erotica of the Year, Volume Five, edited by Rachel Kramer Bussel.
From the publisher: “In Best Women’s Erotica of the Year, Volume 5, award-winning editor Rachel Kramer Bussel takes readers on an outrageous journey into the world of female fantasy and desire. These sexy stories offer up wild, hot, and steamy tales from today’s top authors. You’ll be swept away by the sexiest business deal ever, break the rules in a future world where skin-on-skin contact is forbidden, and discover the art of getting off by phone sex.”
Only Real Girl on 
the Internet – Published by Cleis Press in As Kinky As You Wanna Be, edited by Shanna Germain.
From the publisher: “As Kinky as You Wanna Be is not an instruction book. It won’t teach you how to tie up your squirming lover or choose the proper lube. Rather, it teaches you how to be a kinky person who has safe, sane, and smart experiences. This book helps you discover which kinky countries you want to visit, gives you tips and techniques on the language of BDSM, and helps you navigate the customs and rituals of the kink community. With sections on discovering your pleasures; talking about kink with your partner, your family, or your doctor; staying physically and mentally safe; putting your kinky dreams into practice; and dealing with difficult situations, As Kinky as You Wanna Be is your guide and confidant. The book features informative interviews with BDSM experts and it is sprinkled with stories from top erotica authors.”
Ripples in Still Water – Published by Cleis Press in Love Burns Bright: A Lifetime of Lesbian Romance edited by Radclyffe.
“Love Burns Bright brings together erotic stories of lovers who have managed to keep the sexual pulse in their long-term lesbian relationships. Part erotica, part love story, the nineteen stories range in age, ethnicity, and style, but return to the oft-challenged notion that sexual thrall can live well into the latter years of a relationship.”—ForeWord Reviews
The Jeffrey Factor – Published by Cleis Press in the Big Book of Orgasms, edited by Rachel Kramer Bussel.
“Out of all of the erotica books I’ve read, I feel like this one has the widest appeal because of the theme and because of the diversity of people and sex represented in the stories.” —Viva La Sexy
Aquamarine – Published by Go Deeper Press in the book Shameless Behavior, edited by Lana Fox. From the publisher: “The characters in Shameless Behavior are having such sizzling sex that it helps them overcome shame. The stories in this collection show how BDSM, kink,and loving self-acceptance can all be erotic healers when heart-powered partners unite. Dedicated to Anais Nin, and penned by well-established and exciting new writers, these stories will confound anyone who thinks that erotica can’t be deep.”
Buy it now or read an excerpt of my story.
Study Buddy – Published by Storm Moon Press in Legal Briefs – a charity anthology to benefit Lambda Legal. Buy it now.
Heart on the Dancefloor & Eye of the Beholder – Published by Cleis Press in Sudden Sex: 69 Sultry Short Stories edited by Alison Tyler. Buy now!
Senseless – Published by Cleis Press in The Big Book of Bondage edited by Alison Tyler. Buy now!
Turnabout – Published by 8th Circle Press in Felt Tips (office supply erotica for charity!) – Buy now!
podcasts
AMERICAN SEX PODCAST STELLA HARRIS: HEALTHY COMMUNICATION IN SEX & RELATIONSHIPS – EP 60
Shameless Sex Podcast #80 G-Spots, Squirting, And Vulva Mapping With Stella Harris
Sex Gets Real 225: Stella Harris helps us when we’re tongue tied
Strange Bedfellows PDX S1 EP2 – Sex Coach Stella Harris Blows Minds