ARTICLES

Scroll down for a selection of articles I've written for various media outlets.
Green flags for rope partners

Green flags to look out for when meeting new people or trying new things.

What is sexual tension?

Experts explain when to act on those butterflies in your stomach.

The basics of BDSM negotiation

Negotiation is the backbone of consensual BDSM practices.

Recovering And Healing from Divorce Grief

Divorce is the second-most stressful life event you can experience.

Edging, Chastity & Orgasm Control for Locktober & Beyond

Orgasm control is probably my favorite kink.

Rope For Intimacy

My favorite part of rope bondage is the intimacy it creates.

How To Tell If Jealousy Is Healthy Or Controlling

Plus red flags to watch out for.

Wanna Try Anal Sex? Here’s How To Prepare

Sexperts say a little prep work can make the experience even hotter.

What is ethical porn and why does it matter?

Filmmakers, performers, and sexperts share their insights.

The damsel in distress

Learn about “damsel in distress” style bondage.

Curious about orgasm control?

You’ll never look at begging the same way again.

Getting An IUD Can Be Painful, So Why Is Anesthesia Used So Rarely?

It’s complicated, but the good news is that other pain management methods might be available to you.

Who was bettie page?

Check out an amazing guest blogpost by Stella Harris about the iconic Bettie Page.

Everyone should pee after sex

Peeing after sex is essential for wellness, no matter who you sleep with (including solo sex.)

What’s a humiliation kink?

Here’s why it’s hot and how to get started.

Sex After Divorce

When it comes to sex after divorce, some people can’t wait to get back in the saddle and others feel like they’ll never be ready.

Dating After Divorce

After a serious relationship has ended, it can be hard to think about moving on and finding new relationships.

How To Improve Your Relationship After Divorce

A fresh start is possible if you keep some key elements in mind.

The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Milking

Prostate milking can be beneficial to both pleasure and health.

G-Spotting

There are many wonderful ways for the body to experience pleasure. And while the clitoris gets a lot of attention it’s not the only way for people with vulvas and vaginas to have orgasms.

How To Support a Partner Who’s Overcoming Past Sexual Trauma

It’s important to draw clear boundaries around what kind of support is healthy and safe to give, both for them and for us.

Your Step-by-Step Guide to Fisting

Being inside of your partner, or having your partner inside of you, creates incredible intimacy.

Everything You Know About Foreplay Is Wrong

Foreplay suggests that it’s the build up to a main event.

How Movies Like “Labyrinth” Can Help You Talk About Intimate Fantasies

You may be surprised by how many fantasies are already lurking in your subconscious.

Better Sex: 10 Things to Start Doing Right Now

Better sex doesn’t just happen. It takes communication and knowing your partner. These 10 tips can give you a much better sex life.

Anal Play and IBS – Why It Doesn’t Have to Be a No Go

Anal sex with health considerations isn’t all that different from other kinds of sex. Know your body, communicate and take care of you!

Wet & Wild: Everything You’ve Wanted to Know About Squirting

Sex is messy and body fluids are no big deal.

How Do I Introduce Toys In The Bedroom?

Only between 25 and 50 percent of people have tried using sex toys, depending on which study you want to believe.

When It Feels Like Something Is Missing From Sex

“I’m realizing that I experience little to no pleasure from sex, when I have sex I feel nothing.”

Everything You’ve Wanted to Know About Your First Threesome

Threesomes are a common fantasy, but that doesn’t mean they’re for everyone.

Can Oral Sex Cause Cancer?

Sex does come with risks, and its important to understand those risks so you can make fully informed decisions.

Rimming Risks — And How To Play Safer

Just like any other sexual contact, analingus presents a few potential health risks – but there are ways to mitigate them.

Talk To Your Partner About Period Sex

Whether period sex is part of your spiritual practice or simply cause for an extra load of laundry, bringing up the conversation can be valuable…