This Masturbation May, Build Yourself a Pleasure Ritual
This ‘Masturbation May’ take a pledge to learn more about your body and how you like to be touched, and create a way to make that exploration special.
We can use the framework of ritual to think through every element of the experience we want to create, and to help add meaning to every step of the process.
Think about lighting a candle, or burning some incense, or doing something to mark the time and space that you’re using for pleasure. Setting the mood isn’t just for when you’re trying to impress a partner, you deserve the same care and romance when you’re seducing yourself.
To create your ritual, think about all of your senses, and decide how you’d like to address each one.
What lighting do you want? Would you like to make time at night, with candles glowing around the room? Or would you rather explore during mid-day, when a beam of sunshine falls across your bed?
Do you want the room to be warm, and be cozied up in a pile of blankets or do you want a window open so you can feel fresh air and breeze on your skin?
Would you feel most at ease with soft music playing? Or maybe ocean sounds or other white noise? Or is it easier for you to focus when you have silence in your space?
Work your way through every element and decide how you want to feel. And re
member that the mood you’re in will change day to day, hour to hour. So your ritual can always change with your mood, and evolve to meet your needs.
Another way to make masturbation special is to take special care with the toys that you use. That could mean having a nice box to store them in, or a cloth that you wrap them in before they go into a drawer. That way, both getting the toys out, and cleaning them and putting them away, can become part of your routine of making time for yourself.
However you decide to begin, try to keep track of the things you learn about yourself, and the changes you see if your relationship to your body. And remember, this is all about you — anything you do that feels good means you’re doing it right.
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