How to schedule intimacy
The suggestion that couples schedule sex is both common, and controversial. The fact is that with how busy many of our lives are, if something doesn’t get on the calendar, …
What’s the difference between coaching and therapy?
What’s the difference between coaching and therapy? Within both coaching and therapy are numerous specialities, modalities, and styles, meaning there can be more differences within fields than between them. “[T]he …
What is a munch?
I talk to a lot of people who are either new to the kink scene or are curious but not yet involved. The common advice given to newcomers is that …
Test driving threesome dating apps
Previously posted to Substack March 9, 2021, and part of my efforts to consolidate all of my blogging here. It’s launch day for my second book, The Ultimate Guide to …
Fantasy exploration for hotter, more intimate sex
People reach out to sex coaches for many reasons. Wanting hotter, more intimate sex is one of the more common. The problem is that many people feel like something is …
This Masturbation May, Build Yourself a Pleasure Ritual
This ‘Masturbation May’ take a pledge to learn more about your body and how you like to be touched, and create a way to make that exploration special. We can …
When social distancing means close quarters
All we’re seeing in the news and in our social media feeds is telling us to keep our distance from other people — but how does that work when you …
A pegging story for Anal August
Pegging is one of my favorite topics (although I have a lot of favorites 😉 ) It’s something I write about, teach about, and love in my personal life, too. …
The Heart of Kink: Vulnerability
I’ve interviewed countless people for my classes and articles, and whenever I talk to people into kink, BDSM, or fetish play, there’s a common thread. When I ask people why …
Masturbation as self love and ritual
I’m not a Wiccan, but the line from the charge of the goddess, “All acts of love and pleasure are my rituals,” has always resonated with me. I was reminded of …